After Life Ideas - Amber Fillerup Clark

Since sharing that I’ve left the Mormon church – I’ve realized what number of of you might be in related conditions. For me, one of many scariest ideas was what to do with the after life beliefs I had beforehand held.. And I needed to share a few of my ideas from the final 12 months or so with you in case it occurs to assist anybody or spark any new concepts for your self. This can be a very susceptible matter and one which in actuality, nobody is “proper” about as a result of none of us really know for certain. We will all maintain beliefs and place confidence in these however none of us can inform the opposite they’re fallacious, solely that they don’t share the identical perception.

As quite a lot of you already know, the mormon church believes that households will be collectively without end. I’d say it is among the predominant pillars of the church is this concept of everlasting households. And once you depart mormonism you do type go, holy crap wait is it true or not? I feel what we consider ought to actually simply be what brings us essentially the most peace whereas on earth. Not in an insensitive approach, however in a really literal approach, none of us will care if what we believed wasn’t true as soon as we’re lifeless, as a result of… we shall be lifeless. So we simply must have peace and luxury right here and now. I completely see how the concept of everlasting households is a incredible perception that may convey a lot peace to those that have suffered loss. I really suppose it’s a very wholesome perception to hold with you so long as folks don’t lean on it as a crutch when being there for others grieving (not permitting them to correctly grieve as a result of you’ll “see them once more” so why are you continue to so unhappy kind of factor)

I additionally actually don’t consider that you just even must essentially be non secular with the intention to consider that you will notice family members once more in a heaven or in one other universe or no matter .. I feel that’s as believable as us ending up right here within the first place is. So I at the start don’t suppose that perception must be thrown out when leaving faith if that perception nonetheless holds worth for you. There aren’t any guidelines in relation to these items, you are able to do it nonetheless you need.

I used to suppose it was unhappy when folks didn’t consider in afterlife – I now don’t suppose it’s unhappy in any respect, I feel it’s a really realist and sensible outlook and for some the consolation blanket of afterlife isn’t obligatory. And I can even see how which may make folks actually absorb what we get to have right here on earth extra, embracing the finality as soon as it’s executed. I feel for me I’ve to cling onto one thing as a result of I feel if I ever misplaced a toddler or David I don’t suppose I might survive with out that thought.. whether or not or not it’s we soar to a different universe and proceed on with life however with a brand new storyline or we reincarnate or we’re up in heaven having a elaborate lil get together.

Rosie just lately introduced up reincarnation and talked about how she actually likes that concept. And was increasing on the place she would ideally wish to go .. however she stated any animal or human simply not an fish 🙂 and I informed her I feel in case you have that request the universe could make that occur! I feel there are quite a lot of completely different choices for afterlife and no matter makes somebody really feel peaceable, wonderful. The primary factor for me when educating my children is simply to show them that nobody is “fallacious” .. we will all be open minded to different’s concepts and so long as they don’t seem to be harming others we will respect these beliefs and share ours as nicely. Our beliefs can even shift and alter – as we hearken to others we would hear one thing we actually love that we need to convey into our personal perception system. Actually, nothing is everlasting.

As quite a lot of you realize, David’s brother handed away about 6 years in the past, after which shortly after his dad handed. After which only recently his mother. We’ve additionally had each of my grandpa’s die within the final decade or so. After which in fact Chauncey :(. We’ve been lucky to be left with quite a lot of actually particular issues of theirs. I’ve so lots of my grandpa’s work and I maintain them on show within the dwelling and in addition in a room upstairs the place I paint now. I do know this would possibly sound cooky however I’m 100% satisfied that the work maintain vitality that I merely can not clarify in any approach apart from to say I completely really feel it and really feel like I’ve weirdly gotten to know him extra or really feel near him via the work. I even have felt his vitality pushing me creatively the previous 12 months.. It has felt so palpable for me that it actually obtained me eager about vitality generally. We all know that vitality can’t be destroyed.. And we all know that we will *really feel* vitality each good and dangerous and the whole lot in between. We all know it’s there. I began to actually love the concept after we die we depart behind all of our vitality. Particularly in issues like artwork or something we put vitality into (journals, prepare dinner books that have been used, clothes, and so on).. Possibly for this reason artwork has such worth to sure folks and to not others. Possibly we do have artwork/aesthetic preferences in fact however perhaps we additionally love the vitality that comes with it.

I actually consider that we not solely depart behind vitality however that individuals can select to simply accept the vitality or not. For instance after we really feel dangerous vitality that doesn’t imply it mechanically begins seeping into us.. We both let it are available or not. So I began like a 12 months in the past actively making an attempt to “settle for” the vitality left behind by our family members who’ve left. Qualities about them that I actually cherished and the fervour they’d for the issues we now have in our properties and hoping to let a few of that zeal enter my realm. It would sound foolish however I really feel like I’ve began to have deeper relationships with them even after they’re gone – like I’m able to get to know them. Which for me has been actually pretty as a result of when David and I obtained married, his mother and pop have been on their mission in Costa Rica. Then after they obtained again, we have been dwelling in NYC and so they weren’t dwelling for lengthy earlier than leaving on a second mission to Patagonia. In Patagonia is the place David’s dad discovered he had a mind tumor, which he died from shortly after coming dwelling. I at all times really feel so emotional that I by no means obtained to get to know him extra, as a result of he actually simply appears so exceptional and so cool. Being open to this concept of accepting his vitality – the vitality he left behind in his movie digicam that david now makes use of, the rocks he discovered whereas touring the world as a geologist, the books he learn, the pictures he took. He was so artistic and adventurous and free spirited and I really like having the ability to soak all that up. And David’s mother was sooooo angelic and sort and affected person and artistic and such an amazing painter. I’m hoping to get a few of her portray provides so I can use these and once more hopefully have a few of her loveliness rub off on me. Ehren David’s brother was at all times thrifting and being artistic and was so enthusiastic – he cherished a superb thrifted discover and I’ve completely accepted all of his treasure looking vitality and love to have a look at the items he gave us that we’ve got on show in our dwelling… together with so many different issues from every particular person. So many wonderful qualities we will tackle from our family members who’ve left us it’s so particular.

This has additionally made me understand the significance of simply placing vitality into issues that may be left behind for our family members. How wonderful to have vitality stuffed objects that they’ll then settle for all of our fantastic qualities and use them all through their lives.